Activities to explore mental and emotional health.
Activity 1 - Healthy relationships
Activity 3 - Communicating well
Activity ? - - Relationship crossword puzzle May do here or anytime ... end.
Activity 4 - Family relationships
Activity 5 - Peer relationships
Activity 6 - Describe your ideal group's members
Activity 7 - Describe peer interactions in a cooperative group
Activity 8 - Assertive survey
Activity 9 - Assertive behavior and refusal procedure
Activity ? - Relationship crossword puzzle
- Healthy relationships
- Respecting yourself and others
- Family relationships
- Peer relationships & suggestion for managing jealousy and envy
- Assertive behavior
Purpose - To describe healthy relationships
Directions: 1. Review the key ideas for healthy relationships, 2. Categorize these 16 actions, 3. Write personal goals you use or would like to use for positive relationships. & 4. Describe how relationships affect the areas of health.
2. Categorize each as: helpful (+), unhelpful (-) , or neutral (0) for positive relationships
- _____ Pouts at little things.
- _____ Encourages everyone to work together.
- _____ Wants to be in a group according to friendships.
- _____ Communicates verbally and with body language.
- _____ Makes suggestions to help keep on task.
- _____ Reviews decisions and goals.
- _____ Blames others for their own mistakes.
- _____ Doesn't put down others or their ideas.
- _____ Solves conflicts with raised voice and demandis their ideas be used.
- _____ Puts down other group member ideas.
- _____ Acts out instead of staying on task.
- _____ Threatens to quit or not participate.
- _____ Compliments self and others.
- _____ Accepts responsibility for their own actions.
- _____ Respects personal boundaries.
- _____ Respects and values others.
3. Describe characteristics of a healthy relationship
4. Describe how relationships afect areas of health
Purpose - To describe characteristics of respecting yourself and others.
Directions: Review the key ideas for respecting yourself and others and Write personal goals you use or would like to use to respect yourself and others.
Goals to respect yourself and others
Purpose - To describe quality communication.
Directions: Review the key ideas for quality communications and Write personal goals you use or would like to use for communication.
Goals to communicate to yourself and others
Purpose - To describe relationships that maintain physical, social, and mental/ emotional safe and healthy family.
Directions: Review the key ideas for healthy family relationships and Identify and describe an idea for each category to maintain or improve relationships
Identify and describe an idea for each category to maintain or improve relationships
Purpose - To describe characteristics and procedures for safe and healthy peer relationships.
Directions: Review the key ideas for peer relationships and Classify the following as positive, negative, or neutral for relationship building.
Put a + for positive, - for negative, and 0 for neutral.
- _____ Interrupts people when they talk.
- _____ Judges people by the way they look.
- _____ Continue to be them self in spite of what other people say.
- _____ Don't communicate truthfully, because it might hurt other people's feelings.
- _____ Threaten people to change their minds.
- _____ When in a bad mood or upset, walk away.
- _____ Use I statements when upset or in a bad mood.
- _____ Don't tell people when they interrupt.
- _____ Invite someone in your class group to sit with you at lunch to continue a conversation.
- _____ A person wants you to spend more time with them than other group members.
- _____ A person who doesn't want to share responsibility for completing an assignment.
- _____ Disagree even though it hurts another person's feelings.
- _____ Agree to respectfully disagree.
- _____ Blame others when something doesn't help in achieving the goal.
- _____ You feel forced to agree or comply to achieve a group goal.
- _____ A group member asks others for their thoughts and ideas.
Purpose - To describe traits for group members.
Choose direction number 1 or number 2 and complete the activity.
- Pretend you have a computer App that will select members for your group to work on a class project. The App ask for you to rate each of the following traits according to what you believe a good group member should have. + have the trait, - do not have the trait or 0 doesn't matter if they have the trait or not.
- Or ... Pretend the App will select traits of members differently according to how many members of the group you think should have the trait. For example, you might have some members with a trait, no members with a trait, or all of the members of your group with a trait. Beside each trait put a 0 for no members will have the trait, S for some with the trait, and A for all members having the trait.
|Good listener .....||Good listener .....||Dominating .....|
|Polite .....||Makes fun of people .....||Assertive .....|
|Open minded .....||One track mind .....||Mean .....|
|Leader .....||Cold .....||Passive .....|
|Controlling .....||Sincere .....||Insecure .....|
|Lazy .....||Smart .....||Rude .....|
|Irresponsible .....||Daredevil .....||Serious .....|
|Social .....||Shy .....||Manipulative .....|
|Snob .....||Considerate .....||Immature .....|
|Caring .....||Bossy .....||Fun loving .....|
|Show off .....||Ditsy .....||Best friend .....|
|Understanding .....||Follower .....||Opinionated .....|
|Competitive .....||Not dependable .....||Good looking .....|
|Reliable .....||Outspoken .....||Moody .....|
|Pushes boundaries .....||Impatient .....||Responsible .....|
|Trustworthy .....||Needy .....||Creative .....|
|Annoying .....||Happy .....||Social .....|
|Funny .....||Pouty .....||Likes music .....|
|Likable .....||Impatient .....||Willing to change .....|
|Loner .....||Team player .....||Like challenges .....|
|Demanding .....||Athletic .....||Flirt .....|
|Respects boundaries .....||Self-centered .....||Good student .....|
You may add some traits of your own and rate them.
Purpose - To review actions and behaviors and and identify what is and is not helpful for group success.
Hint: (2016) as a result of a massive investigation to discover how to build the perfect team, found that psychological safety is the most important element for team work, increased productivity, creativity, and cooperation.
- Select one of the team building activities to participate in as a group.
- Describe what actions and inactions helped the group be successful and enjoyable.
Actions and behaviors that were not helpful for the group to be successful.
Actions and behaviors that helped the group to be successful.
Purpose - To review and reflect on the use of assertive and non assertive behaviors.
Directions: Rate each of the following according to how strong you agree with it.
Use a scale from 1-4.
..... 4 very strongly agree ..... 3 agree ..... 2 disagree ..... 1 strongly disagree
- _____ When people hurt your feelings, you use an I statement to let them know how you feel.
- _____ If someone borrows something from me and doesn't return it the next day, I will remind them.
- _____ I tell people when I disagree with them even if it means they might not it.
- _____ I ask for explanations in class when I don't understand something.
- _____ When someone explains something to me and I don't understand it, I ask them to clarify or I ask questions.
- _____ When a person makes a general remark or says someone said, I ask them to identify who it was specifically.
- _____ When it is clear that the class is not understanding an assignment and no one is saying so, I will speak up and say, I don't understand.
- _____ I tend to do what I think is right even when others might not.
- _____ I let people know when they disappoint me.
- _____ I say no when classmates want to copy my homework or test answers.
- _____ If a classmate is disturbing someone during class, I ask them to stop.
- _____ If I have a friend who does something I think is not in their best interest, I tell them how I feel about it.
- _____ If I need a favor, I will ask a friend.
- _____ When someone asks me to do something that goes against my values, I will refuse to do it.
- _____ I will express my ideas on things, even if others disagree.
Purpose - To review and practice the use of assertive and refusal procedures and behaviors.
Directions: Select a situation where you disagree with a decision a person or group makes. Use the procedure for being assertive or refusal to role play how you would leave or refuse to go along with the person or group. See assertive and refusal procedures
Resources: Word bank and Key Ideas
Abuse is the physical, emotional, mental, or sexual mistreatment of a person caused by an action or neglect of action.
Active listening see listening skills
Affirmation is an expression of recognition, support, and appreciation of what a person does. Affirm and celebrate behaviors that assist or help others or behaviors that are successful in achieving desired goals.
Aggressive is being overly menacing, threatening, forceful, pushy, or hostile to achieve a goal.
Assertive is clearly, respectfully, and confidently communicating your ideas and feelings strong enough to achieve a goal, resolve a conflict, or to respectfully state your objections.
Assault is a threat of physical attack or an actual sudden violent attack.
Body language is the nonverbal expression communicated with: gestures like bobbing and nodding, hand on chin; open body language like hands open, arms not folded; facial expressions like smiling, eyes wide; posture that is erect, leaning forward; tone of voice like lower, slower, even pitch, matter of fact;
Bullying is an act that deliberately intimidates, harms, or threatens another person.
Caring is to interact with and help other people in a manner that treats them with consideration, respect, and kindness.
Child abuse is any form of abuse directed at a child.
Citizenship is the rights, privileges, and duties of a member of the community in which they are entitled to citizenship. In the United States by birth or through a legal process. Becoming a citizen of the United States process for naturalization.
Clique is a small exclusive group of people with similar interests and goals who may or may not actively exclude or demean people who are different or have different interests and goals.
Commitment is to pledge to contribute to a relationship in a manner to enhance and make it stronger.
Communication in a relationship goes beyond an exchange of ideas to include sharing each others feelings, thoughts, beliefs, expectations, and goals.
Community service is voluntary work intended for the common good, usually done through an organized group: school or college program or court ordered instead of imprisonment.
Confidential is keeping information given secret or private.
Conflict is any contradiction, disagreement, struggle, or fight that can be interpersonal or internal. Interpersonal conflict is when two or more individuals who must cooperate together fail to share the same views, interests, or goals. Internal conflict is within an individual. See conflict resolution and mediation
- Power struggle is when a person or group tries to convince or force their decision or action over those of the other person or group.
- Personal loyalty is keeping a promise or commitment made to another person or group.
- Jealous or envy jealous is a feeling of resentment or envy of another person or group. Envy is the desire to have something another person or group has. See ideas for coping with jealousness & envy
- Property disputes is a disagreement over the owner ship of physical objects.
- Conflicting opinion, values, beliefs, ethics is when another person or group has different opinions, values, beliefs, or ethical ideas than yours.
- Lack respect and caring disrespect by being rude, bullying, putting another person down, making fun of them of them or treating them bad in anyway.
Conflict resolution is the process of ending a disagreement, conflict, with cooperation and problem solving. See conflict resolution and mediation
Compromise is settling a disagreement with mutual agreement. Often with both parties giving up something and neither getting what they want. A win-win solution is better when one can be achieved. See conflict resolution and win-win, win-lose, & lose-lose chart
Crisis center is a central building, agency, facility, answering service, ... where people get informed help or advice with a personal problem or receive information during a disaster or emergency.
Custody is the legal obligation to make decisions affecting a minor child's protection, care, and education, usually with respect to a divorce or separation.
Cycle of violence is the repeated use of violence and abusive behaviors passed on from one generation to the next.
Divorce is a legal end of a marriage according to established law.
Domestic violence is an act of physical harm on one or more family member by another family member.
Elder abuse is the abuse or neglect of older individuals.
Escalate is to increase in intensity or become more serious.
Exclude to expel, kick out, prevent inclusion, or restrict entry to a group.
- Adoptive family is parent or parents and one or more adopted children. May also include biological children.
- Blended family is married parents and children who can include children of the parents, but also include children from previous marriages.
- Extended family is parents and children who live in a kinship group and function as a nuclear family. May include various relatives: grandparents, cousins, aunts & uncles, in-laws, or close friends, and colleagues.
- Foster home is a household in which a child is raised by someone other than its natural or adoptive parent. There may also be other children who may be the parents biological children, blended, adopted or also under foster care.
- Single-parent family is one parent has custody or total care for one or more children. Caused by divorce, separation, or death.
Foster home is a household in which a child is raised by someone other than its natural or adoptive parent. There may also be other children who may be the parents biological children, blended, adopted or also under foster care.
Friendship is a relationship between people who know each other, trust, and support each other. Usually in a caring manner, which develops a bond of mutual affection.
Harassment is persistent negative interactions that pester, annoy, bother, harm, or torment others.
Hazing is the act of requiring a person to perform insulting, demeaning, or harmful tasks or rituals as entry requirements to become a member of a certain group.
Honesty is being open, fair, truthful, and honorable.
Homicide is the willful killing of a human by another human.
I messages or I statements is a way to focus a communication on your feelings instead of a person's behavior. See I statements.
Listening skills or active listening is paying close attention to what someone is communicating vocally and emotionally with body language.
Manipulate is a dishonest unfair way to influence or control other people. The following are ways to manipulate
- Threaten is an action that indicates violence, injury, or punishment will result in retaliation if a specific action is or isn't completed.
- Blackmail is an action that indicates violence or a payment will result as a consequence if a specific action is or isn't completed.
- Reward is the act of allowing a favorable action or giving a favorable object as consequence if a specific action is or isn't completed.
- Coerce is the act of with holding a favorable action or favorable object or using a threat or harm if a specific action is or isn't completed.
- Mock or tease is the act of physical and verbal actions used to influence a person until a specific action is or isn't done.
- Guilt trip is the act of physical and verbal blame used to influence a person to perform or not to perform a specific action.
- Bargain is the act of negotiating with a person to influence them to perform or refrain from performing a specific action.
- Flatter is the act of saying positive things to a person to influence them to perform or refrain from performing a specific action.
- Bribe is the act of promising money or a favorable act if a person performs or refrains from performing a specific task.
Mediation the use of a neutral third party to guide a problem solving process to resolve a conflict or disagreement and reach a mutual solution. See conflict resolution and mediation
Mutual respect is when a person's esteem or sense of worth is the same for each other.
Neglect is the failure to provide for a child's basic needs.
Negotiation is the process two parties use to communicate with each other their differences in a problem solving process to resolve the conflict or disagreement and reach a mutual solution through discussion. See conflict resolution and mediation
Neutral is not favoring one person or idea over another.
Passive is refraining from a reaction, communication, or expression of ones feelings and ideas when a response would usually be beneficial.
Peer mediation is mediation where the mediator is a peer of the people with the conflict. See mediation.
Peer pressure the positive and negative influence same age people have on each other.
Platonic friendship is a close relationship between members of opposite gender, but not romantic or sexual in nature.
Prejudice is an unfavorable or favorable opinion or feeling formed without knowledge, thought, or reason. Often regarding an ethnic, racial, social, or religious group.
Relationship is the manner in which people are connected. Relationships will vary according to who you interact with and where the interactions take place: home - family, school - peers, teachers, counselors... community - friends, customer representatives, sales people, strangers, ...
Role is the actions taken by a person in a particular social setting influenced by what they believe is appropriate or customary.
Separation is a decision by a married couple to live apart from each other.
Sibling is a brother or sister
Spousal abuse is any form of abuse toward a spouse (marriage partner).
Stereotype is an exaggerated oversimplified belief or idea that is known collectively by a group of people and used to describe a group of people. Like patriot, American Indian, cowboy, jock, nerd...
Tolerance is the ability to accept different beliefs and practices in a fair, objective, and caring manner.
Youth centers are places or organizations where young people go for leisurely or other group activities.
Violence is swift physical force used to harm or threaten a person or damage property.
Volunteer groups are groups and organizations that give time, money, and other resources to provide goods or services to benefit others.
- Must have self-respect. Respect yourself before develop respect for others.
- Know how to care for your self and others
- Set realistic expectations
- Have mutual trust
- Know how to make and keep commitments
- Know how to listen to other peoples ideas and read their emotions and feelings.
- Know how to communicate ideas and emotions.
- Develop good listening skills
- Develop good social skills
- How to cooperate
- Conflict resolution
- Set goals
- Make decisions
- Share time
- Different people and environments require different kinds of relationships
- Must exhibit good character. Remember the traits you selected that you would like people to use to describe you? Like: trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, cheerful, caring, fair, responsible, respectful, and a good citizen.
- Know how to have healthy relationships.
- Positive self-esteem and self-efficacy
- Personal identity - see activity Who am I? Personal Shield or Coat of Arms.
- Must know what character traits that you would like people to use to describe you. Like: trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, cheerful, caring, fair, responsible, respectful, and a good citizen.
- Develop good listening skills
- Develop good social skills
- Avoid you statements
- Use I statements to express feelings
- Use wait time
- Ask questions
- Don't interrupt
- Sit if possible
- Look at the person, lean forward, make eye contact, bob and nod,
- Communicate interest. Say go on, I understand, I see...
- Restate or repeat what you are hearing by rephrasing when possible to summarize.
- Check for understanding by summarizing...
- Ask questions. Ask for examples or say, the way I understand what you are saying is ...
- Communicate empathy
- Communicate positive body language. Gestures like bobbing and nodding, hand on chin; open body language like hands open, arms not folded; facial expressions like smiling, eyes wide; posture that is erect, leaning forward; tone of voice like respectful, lower, slower, even pitch, matter of fact, slow deliberate rate;
- Providing feedback and feedforward. Explain how the communication is going and how it might be better.
Ideas and behaviors related to stronger family relationships
- Provide for the physical needs and other Maslow's levels.
- Respect parents
- Commitment to establish a cohesive functional family where each is willing to provide time, sacrifice, and work together to solve problems and provide for each others physical, social, mental and emotional needs.
- Solve problems: related to marriage, illness, death, financial situations, moving, alcohol or drug abuse, emotional stress,
- Know family values, traditions, procedures, relationships
- Share similar values and ethics and trust in each other
- Good social skills
- Assist with tasks needed for family life
- Desire to cooperate and resolve conflict
- Respect all family members
- Desire to learn family history and culture
- Seek to discover the value of each family member
- Work to provide a safe and healthy environment and lifestyle. Seat belts, bike helmets, nutritious meals, poison and medication out of reach for young children, have and maintain co2 and smoke detectors,
- Set and maintain limits on behavior. Use of electronic devices, appropriate sleep, avoiding risky behaviors,
- Provide medical care: regular medical check ups, inoculations, dental care, vision care, skin care,
- Know when to seek or ask for help.
- Know different places to seek help: counseling services, support groups, crisis center, community shelters, hot lines, law enforcement, hospitals, clinics, rescue units, fire, faith communities.
- Take action against abuse with 3R's: recognize, resist, and report.
- Peers spend time together who have similar interests, values, and beliefs.
- Relationships increase with honest, clear, and open communication. Communication implies listening to each other.
- Relationships grow stronger when sharing celebrations, disappointments, successes, goals, dreams, and concerns.
- Relationships grow with mutual respect, care, and support.
- Distinguish between casual peer relationships and close friendships.
- Recognize when to expand or reduce peer relationships and set and respect boundaries.
- When meeting a person for the first time (face to face or Online) be cautious. Don't share personal information, address, phone number, email address, don't agree to meeting in private places, don't agree to anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.
- Ideas to consider when thinking of expanding a relationship.
- Does the person care about your feelings and desires?
- Does the person support you when you need it?
- Does the person respect you, treat you fairly, do what you want to do and not always what they want to do?
- Do they share your interests?
- Do they accept and appreciate any differences between you and them?
- Are they consistent and steady with their friendship?
- Are they discrete with personal information and keep secrets and personal information confidential?
- Suggestions and ideas to consider to overcome or reduce jealous or envious thoughts and maintain friendship when a friend chooses activities with others or a slight occurs.
- Accept the feeling and recognize it as an emotional response to the anxiety of a potential loss.
- Consider your ability and social skills to develop and maintain the relationship in the first place as positive and repeatable. Value yourself for what you are and not who you know or the people who hang out with you.
- Accept it for what it is. Not what it might or could be. This kind of comparison can become an infinite loop of unrealistic possibilities by comparing yourself to other people or comparing one situation to another.
- Consider a real friend celebrates positive unique differences and the good things their friends experience, not lament their own personal lack of involvement.
- Remember the positives of the friendship. Consider a friend's action from their point of view and consider if their decision seems appropriate or a deliberate slight on the friendship. If so, be prepared to dissolve the friendship.
- Remember you don't need to choose to feel jealous, anxious, or angry. You control your response to your emotions. Review how to deal with stress...
- Consider the positives and negatives for the ways people respond to slights or jealousy in relationships:
- They insure them self the friendship is intact and strong, celebrate the friends opportunity, and continue with the friendship as it unfolds.
- They feel threatened and attempt to increase control over the other person to strengthen the relationship.
- They withdraw from the relationship to avoid possible future situations of not being included.
Assertive behavior and refusal procedure
- Review your decision and plan how to state your position clearly and respectfully. Provide an honest powerful reason to support it. Support for how your needs will be met by your decision or how a different response will not meet your needs or goes against your values or breaks a promise to yourself or others. Use I statements and avoid you statements, you are ... you always ... Also don't exaggerate or use emotional words like always, never, craziest, dumbest, ...
- Say no or state your intended response in a normal conversational tone. Do so with supporting body language. Stand tall, relax and look the person in the eye or forehead. Don't look down. Shake your head no. Hold up hands with palms out and fingers up making the universal sign for stop. Or you may begin to turn away or execute your intended response.
- Suggest alternatives
- Stand your ground. Can repeat your stand or decision again with strong body language and determination. Maintain eye contact, but do not make physical contact. Repeat again to show your resolve and begin to consider how to leave.
- If it is necessary to leave, state you are going, where if it is appropriate, home, school, and what you will do. If appropriate invite the person to go with you.
Note -while being aggressive and using a loud boisterous verbal tone or physical contact of pushing or shoving can sometimes be used to get your way, it can cause the other person to react negatively. They can become physical or aggressive or react passively doing nothing or initiate revenge later.
Accurate and quality information is needed to make good decisions.
To be healthy that includes: understanding what is human, the body, it's anatomy, functions of life, growth, and development well enough to care for your self and others to attain and maintain healthy bodies: physical, emotional, mental, and social. To do so one must be able to describe, analyze, predict, and compare how different variables, learning, nutrition diet, exercise, sleep, choice of behaviors, genetics, injuries, health status, illness, safety, natural disasters, risks, will impact people in different situations or conditions.